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Compulsive Liars: The Truth About Lying

…to identify a deceptive person. Knowledge is power that may spare us from experiencing real losses, great and small. How to Spot a Liar Do you have confidence about your ability to recognize when someone is lying? How about the idea that a liar will avoid eye contact or look nervous? Neither of these behaviors are primary indicators of lying. Pamela Meyer has made a career out of lie detection and she shares some of these methods in her popular T…

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Restoring Recess by Carol Krucoff, E-RYT

…eight. Just enjoy the sensations of moving your body, breathing deeply and experiencing the present moment. This is your personalized playtime, so pick any form of movement that you like–a solitary walk, shooting hoops with a friend, a yoga class, gardening, dancing, ping-pong, cycling. The options are vast, and nearly anything that gets you moving is fine, since even light-to-moderate exercise can yield significant health benefits—especially if y…

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Self-Limiting Behaviors

…ld escape into whenever unpleasant emotions became excruciating.Instead of experiencing the negative world that we were in, we went into an imaginary world where we were loved and life was good. But today escaping into fantasy is no longer an effective adaptation; it is a destructive habit. It interrupts our pursuit of gratification and success in our real lives, and inhibits our realization of our potential. Now that we are adults and we are free…

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How to talk with kids about the economic crisis

…o address is your child’s emotional state and the upset that the family is experiencing. If they are scared, it is important to listen to their fears. If they are worried that your family may have to move, change jobs or schools, you should do your best to reassure them that you are there for them no matter what happens. Also, offer your kid a realistic picture of how you feel. Explain that in conversations with other adults, you sometimes “let of…

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Psychological Defenses in Everyday Life

…od pain, subsequent defense formation, and the pervasiveness and destructiveness of resulting maladaptive, addictive behaviors in adults. The authors point a way toward reversing the damaging process that keeps individuals from experiencing genuine satisfaction. The clarity and empathic tone of the book make it a valuable adjunct to psychotherapy. Many clinicians have recommended it to their patients to enhance their understanding of the defense s…

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The Emotional Life of the Toddler

…ugh the ups and downs of their very young lives….

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How to Help Your Child Get Things Done (Without a Fight)

…nd connection are in place, you can help your child reflect on what she is experiencing. This reflection allows her to notice what is prompting her resistant, or other “non-compliant” or challenging behavior. Once this is brought into focus for both you and your child, you can support her in figuring out a better path forward. Finally, as you move through this process, you can celebrate each step along the way. It is important to water what you wa…

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Eight Ways to Actively Fight Depression

…the symptoms that make it hard to get out of a depressed state. For anyone experiencing this stuckness, it’s important to remember that depression is a very common and highly treatable disorder. By treating it like any other physical disease and taking the actions that will destroy the parasites infecting your mental state, you can conquer your depression. Here are eight steps to doing just that. Recognize and Conquer Your Critical Self Attacks De…

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Nerf Guns – What Are We Afraid of? by Debra Kessler, Psy.D.

…ction to important others, or a threat to the connection with ourselves as experiencing an understandable feeling. These types of responses prevent anger from taking on the constructive role it can serve, helping us understand the threat that triggered a protective response. Perhaps a different lens on the role of anger in our children can be helpful. Anger is a primal response to the sense of threat. That threat can relate to physical safety or e…

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What is Mindsight? by Daniel Siegel, M.D.

…tendency to get trapped in. It lets us “name and tame” the emotions we are experiencing, rather than being overwhelmed by them. Consider the difference between saying “I am sad” and “I feel sad.” Similar as those two statements may seem, there is actually a profound difference between them. “I am sad” is a kind of selfdefinition, and a very limiting one. “I feel sad” suggests the ability to recognize and acknowledge a feeling, without being consum…

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