The Fantasy Bond
A “fantasy bond” describes an illusion of connection between a couple that is substituted for feelings of real love and intimacy. Forming a fantasy bond is an often unconscious act of self-parenting and self-protection, in which the partners becomes pseudo-independent, replacing the form of being a “couple” with the real relating involved in being in love. The degree of reliance on a fantasy bond is proportional to the degree of frustration and pain experienced in a person’s developmental years. In this section, you can learn why fantasy bonds are formed, what qualities make up a fantasy bond, and how to avoid falling into an unhealthy “bond” in your own relationships.
Dr. Lisa Firestone On The Fantasy Bond
Dr. Lisa Firestone on the Fantasy Bond
The Fantasy Bond Defined for Professionals
An Introduction to The Fantasy Bond with Dr. Lisa Firestone
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