Happiness

Why We Won’t Let Ourselves Be Happy

When it comes to our own happiness, many of us are familiar with the pattern of taking two steps forward, one step back. For example, if we want to lose weight, we may find that after having some success, which makes us happy, we drift up to a higher weight than we started at. If… Read more »

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How to Write your Way to Bliss

In the writing workshops I teach, I advocate that writing can save your life.  Using my own life as a compass, I suggest that when navigating difficult waters, we all need something to turn to—whatever tempers our stress levels. For some people, it might be exercise; for others it might be talk therapy. But for… Read more »

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Mindfulness Can Quiet Down the A**Hole Voice in Our Heads

I was recently interviewing ABC News anchor Dan Harris, author of 10% Happier, for an upcoming online symposium on Uncovering Happiness. I really enjoyed spending time with him rapping about what happiness is really about and why mindfulness and compassion can help inspire it. But one of the things that really made me laugh was… Read more »

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The Secret to Happiness and Well-Being

Like love, happiness is often treated like a physical object we must find and snatch up. Yet, also like love, happiness is something we are more likely to cultivate within ourselves than stumble upon in our wanderings. As the Dalai Lama said, “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” Determining… Read more »

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Be Happy Now!

3 Tips to be Happy with What You’ve Got Does this sound familiar? I’ll be happy when: I lose 10 pounds; get a promotion; find my dream partner. You’re not alone. It’s called conditional happiness. The problem with conditional happiness is that it keeps us on hold while we wait for the perfect life/ career/… Read more »

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How to Find Your Happiness

We’ve all seen some version of this scene: the child at the playground, covered in ice cream, wearing a tiara. She’s surrounded by fun toys, fawning parents and other happily screaming kids. Yet, although her world appears to be exactly as she’d want it, she is beside herself sobbing in utter distress. My point here… Read more »

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Live Your Own Life

What gives a person’s life meaning is as unique to that person as their fingerprint. In order to live your own life, you must begin to identify and prioritize the things in your life that are the most meaningful to you. It is essential that you ask yourself if you are truly living the life… Read more »

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How Negative Thoughts Are Ruining Your Life

Last year, a study of more than 30,000 people revealed that harping on negative life events (particularly through rumination and self-blame) can be the prime predictor of some of today’s most common mental health problems. Results from the eye-opening U.K. study, the largest of its kind, indicated that it isn’t just what happens to us that matters,… Read more »

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An Introduction to Mindfulness

What is mindfulness? Mindfulness is a state that can be cultivated in which one is aware of one’s present experience and responds to this experience in a non-judgmental and non-reactive way. The practice of mindfulness often leads to a sense of balance and psychological well-being. To cultivate mindfulness, you don’t need to try to create… Read more »

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The Secret to Success? How You Can Become More Hardy

It turns out that what predicts how well we will do in life, our relationships, careers, etc. isn’t how much money we have or even how many obstacles we face; it’s a matter of how hardy we are. Hardiness predicts how well people can handle the challenges life throws at them. It involves a pattern… Read more »

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