Self Development

Having an Allergy to a Person – Part 1

Having a relationship with a toxic person In her routine clinical practice, this author often comes across young men and women who have everything — good looks, intelligence, lots of clothes, sound bank balance, loving husband or wife — and yet, they have nervous breakdown or bouts of depression and anxiety. In most of the… Read more »

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Why Are We So Self Critical?

“I just feel so embarrassed. Why on earth did I take this job in the first place? What a failure.” As she uttered these words, my friend’s typically upbeat tone sounded pained and dejected. Her typically animated eyes were fixed dazedly on the floor. Getting laid off by a boss is tough, but what she… Read more »

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Quiz: Is Your Self-Esteem Low?

Like stress, putting ourselves down is just one of those commonly accepted psychological conditions we seem to tolerate without putting up too much of a fight. The “critical inner voice” describes the self-shaming thoughts we experience and the ways they attack us in various areas of our lives. The negative thoughts and feelings generated by… Read more »

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Making Sense of Your Past by Daniel Siegel, M.D.

Creating a Cohesive Life Story: An Excerpt from Dr. Daniel Siegel’s New Book Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation. Why do we parent as we do? When researchers asked this question, they hypothesized— as many of us would— that it is the childhood experience of parents that predicts how they behave with their own… Read more »

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Living Life on Your Own Terms by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

Whose life are you really living ? How can you differentiate from past influences and own your decisions and behaviors?As a therapist, I often hear people recount instances in which they said or did something that they just couldn’t believe. As soon as the words slip out of their mouths, they recognize their unfamiliarity, as… Read more »

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Re-Moralizing Your Inner Voice Part One

In conjunction with The Glendon Association’s webinar, Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, by Dr. Lisa Firestone, I hope to add some complimentary thoughts on the subject of self-attacking inner voices that diminish well-being, steal joy and shame natural enthusiasm. As children, most of us learned some version of the Golden Rule:  treat others as you… Read more »

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Facing Death and Learning to Live

Story from a PsychAlive member. A close friend died recently and I felt the pain of loss in a way that I did not know existed.  I have never experienced the death of someone who I felt really close to before. It brought the reality of death to my consciousness and I became frighteningly aware… Read more »

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The New Eating Disorder We’re Failing to See by Angela Wurtzel

Not long ago two high-profile 30-something women, Brittany Murphy and Casey Johnson, died suddenly of “natural causes.” This news hit me, as I’m sure it hit most people, as both alarming and deeply disturbing. Although the circumstances that led to their deaths were both unclear and confusing, as an eating disorder specialist, I believe that… Read more »

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Fear of Failure

The fear of failure can become a very powerful force in each choice we make and endeavor we undertake. While sometimes this fear can motivate us to succeed, other times it can defeat us, preventing us from pursuing our goals. Often, it is at those times when we are faced with the greatest opportunities that… Read more »

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I recently discovered death

Story from a PsychAlive Member. I recently discovered death.  Of course I have known about it for most of my life, but never really felt what it means.  When I first knew it as a child, I thought it would be a relief to be dead. A relief to stop the turmoil I felt. As… Read more »

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