couples

Take Control of Who You Are in Your Relationship

I often speak to people who are in distress over the way their romantic partner treats them. They believe that they want to be close, but that their partner is preventing it by being “condescending”, “critical,” “irresponsible,” “distant,” or “rejecting.” This makes them feel terrible or forces them to take control, demand attention, or stand up for themselves. They… Read more »

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It’s Not You It’s Me: The Truth Behind The Excuse

Anyone who’s done their share of dating has probably been on one side or the other of the It’s not you, it’s me routine. These five common words, which strive for compassion, in reality just leave our exes confused and puzzling over what went wrong. No one buys this explanation. And why should they? After all, most… Read more »

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Looking for Mr. Perfect, Finding Mr. Right

As little girls most of us have some hope or dream of finding our very own Prince Charming, and as we grow up it feels like we’re always looking for him: at school,  in bars, online, at parties, at Whole Foods Market, at the gym and so on. In my search I kept looking and… Read more »

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The Importance of Independence, Understanding and Respect

Seeing each other realistically and respecting each other as separate individuals are key in maintaining an ideal intimate relationship. Dr. Lisa Firestone elaborates on the reasons independence and understanding are so important for a couple.

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