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How To Create Healthy Boundaries That Work for You

…with a friend, a therapist or writing in a journal can help you find your voice. When you notice your feelings and thoughts, you can express them. Finding your voice means being able to put what you want in words. You may tell yourself, “I really wish I didn’t have to do all this so soon.” You may not be ready to say what you think. A good trauma-informed therapist can help you set the pace in stages. Say what you’re feeling to yourself first, th…

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The Self Under Siege: A Therapeutic Model for Differentiation

…by Firestone, is used to illicit, identify, and challenge the destructive inner voice and to change aversive behaviors based on its prescriptions. The theory they describe integrates the psychodynamic and existential approaches underlying Voice Therapy and is enriched by research findings in the neurosciences, attachment research, and terror management theory (TMT). An important addition to the area of personality development theory, The Self und…

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Healthy Relationships Matter More Than We Think

…rapy, people learn they are able to build a relationship where they have a voice, and that their voice is heard. Because I get to see this amazing journey happen for my clients, I can assure you that we can learn to love and form healthy connections as adults, even if we have struggled for a long time without them. It is Never Too Late to Begin Even if the world did not seem like a safe place as a child, you can change that today. You can be in ch…

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4 Steps to Help Your Partner Hear Your Concerns

…that matter, one thing we have to do is keep our inner critic in check. A voice in our head may be there encouraging actions that are counter to the open communication we are attempting to achieve. For example, if our partner gives us feedback, that voice may dramatize or exaggerate what they’re saying. It may cause us to turn on ourselves or our partner, because it makes us feel like we can’t handle any criticism. If we notice this inner critic…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on Parenting: VIDEO

…ment and dissociation. Dr. Courtois discusses the concept of the ‘Critical Inner Voice’ and Voice Therapy. She addresses how families can be a source of trauma, citing that statistically speaking “the most dangerous people to children are their intimates.” Dr. Courtois places an important emphasis on the extent to which individuals often minimize complex trauma, essentially saying of their abuse “Aw, it wasn’t so bad.” She discusses trauma bonding…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on Complex Trauma and Cognitive Distortion: VIDEO

…ment and dissociation. Dr. Courtois discusses the concept of the ‘Critical Inner Voice’ and Voice Therapy. She addresses how families can be a source of trauma, citing that statistically speaking “the most dangerous people to children are their intimates.” Dr. Courtois places an important emphasis on the extent to which individuals often minimize complex trauma, essentially saying of their abuse “Aw, it wasn’t so bad.” She discusses trauma bonding…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on Violence: VIDEO

…ment and dissociation. Dr. Courtois discusses the concept of the ‘Critical Inner Voice’ and Voice Therapy. She addresses how families can be a source of trauma, citing that statistically speaking “the most dangerous people to children are their intimates.” Dr. Courtois places an important emphasis on the extent to which individuals often minimize complex trauma, essentially saying of their abuse “Aw, it wasn’t so bad.” She discusses trauma bonding…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on Incest: VIDEO

…ment and dissociation. Dr. Courtois discusses the concept of the ‘Critical Inner Voice’ and Voice Therapy. She addresses how families can be a source of trauma, citing that statistically speaking “the most dangerous people to children are their intimates.” Dr. Courtois places an important emphasis on the extent to which individuals often minimize complex trauma, essentially saying of their abuse “Aw, it wasn’t so bad.” She discusses trauma bonding…

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A New Look at Differentiation

…. The methods involve identifying destructive thought processes – critical inner voices — that are antithetical toward the self, those that are self-soothing and self-aggrandizing, yet destructive, and those that are hostile, paranoid and suspicious toward other people. The techniques also include developing insight into the sources of one’s destructive thoughts, answering back from one’s own point of view, and challenging the maladaptive behavior…

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How to Make the Holiday Special

…this from others. It’s way too easy when we’re isolated to let a “critical inner voice” take over that tells us we’re not important, that we shouldn’t bother others, or that they don’t care. Having this voice in our heads is like living with an internal enemy, and we must treat it as one by resisting its directives. Make a time to talk to friends or call out of the blue when you need someone. Let them know what you’re experiencing, what challenges…

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