Critical Inner Voice
What is the Critical Inner Voice?
The critical inner voice is a well-integrated pattern of destructive thoughts toward ourselves and others. The nagging “voices,” or thoughts, that make up this internalized dialogue are at the root of much of our self-destructive and maladaptive behavior.
The critical inner voice is not an auditory hallucination; it is experienced as thoughts within your head. This stream of destructive thoughts forms an anti-self that discourages individuals from acting in their best interest.
How Does the Critical Inner Voice Affect Us?
The critical inner voice is an internal enemy that can affect every aspect of our lives, including our self-esteem and confidence, our personal and intimate relationships, and our performance and accomplishments at school and work. These negative thoughts affect us by undermining our positive feelings about ourselves and others and fostering self-criticism, inwardness, distrust, self-denial, addictions and a retreat from goal-directed activities.
What Are Some Examples of Common Critical Inner Voices?
Some common voices include thoughts like “You’re stupid,” “You’re not attractive,” or “You’re not like other people.”
Some people have voices about their career, like “You’ll never be successful,” “No one appreciates how hard you work,” or “You are under too much pressure, you can’t handle this stress.”
Many people experience voices about their relationship, such as “He doesn’t really care about you,” “You’re better off on your own,” or “Don’t be vulnerable, you’ll just get hurt.”
Where Do Critical Inner Voices Come From?
These inner voices usually come from early life experiences that are internalized and taken in as ways we think about ourselves. Often, many of these negative voices come from our parents or primary care takers, as children we pick up on the negative attitudes that parents not only have towards their children but also toward themselves. Our voices can also come from interactions with peers and siblings, or influential adults.
How is the Critical Inner Voice Different Than a Conscience?
Many people think if they stop listening to their critical inner voice, they will lose touch with their conscience. However, the critical inner voice is not a trustworthy moral guide like a conscience. On the contrary, the critical inner voice is degrading and punishing and often leads us to make unhealthy decisions. These negative voices tend to increase our feelings of self-hatred without motivating us to change undesirable qualities or act in a constructive manner.
How Can I Conquer My Critical Inner Voice?
In order to take power over this destructive thought process, you must first become conscious of what your inner voice is telling you so you can stop it from ruining your life. To identify this, it is helpful to pay attention to when you suddenly slip into a bad mood or become upset, often these negative shifts in emotion are a result of a critical inner voice. Once you identify the thought process and pinpoint the negative actions it is advocating, you can take control over your inner voice by consciously deciding not to listen. Instead you can the actions that are in your best interest.
Read More About the Critical Inner Voice
We are all aware of those nagging thoughts and doubts that increase our nervousness and interfere with our performance at various times. However, most of us are unaware that these sneering, belittling self-criticisms are only the tip of an iceberg. They are merely the more obvious fragments of a larger, well-hidden enemy within each of us that influences our actions, interferes with the pursuit of our personal and career goals, and has an overall negative impact on our lives.
Watch a Whiteboard Video on The Critical Inner Voice
What is the Critical Inner Voice?
The critical inner voice can be thought of as the language of the defensive process. It has been defined as an integrated system of thoughts and attitudes, antithetical toward self and hostile toward others that is at the core of an individual’s maladaptive behavior. The concept of the “voice” is not restricted to cognitive processes but is generally associated with varying degrees of anger and sadness. The term “voice” is used to describe a form of intrapsychic communication that represents a split within the individual between forces that are life-affirming and those that are antagonistic to the self .“Listening” to the voice, that is, believing its prescriptions and prohibitions leads to self-limiting behavior and negative consequences. In other words, people often make their actions correspond to their self-attacks. See Video Clip.
Being for Yourself or Against Yourself
All of us are divided within ourselves. On the one hand, we have self-regard–we have traits and behaviors that we like or feel comfortable with. We have natural tendencies to grow and develop and to pursue our personal and vocational goals, as well as desires to be close in our relationships and to search for meaning in life. These qualities all make up who we really are; they reflect an undefended part of our personality and a friendly, compassionate view of our self.
The positive part of us consists of our unique characteristics–physical abilities and attributes, and emotional temperament, as well as positive traits that we naturally incorporated from our parents. It first develops and grows as a result of our parents’ and other concerned adults’ nurturing qualities and behaviors, and the love and care they direct toward us. Then it is further influenced by what we learn, what we enjoy, and the experiences that facilitate our personal growth.
The Critical Inner Voice
The Critical Inner Voice is the part of us that is turned against ourselves. It is the defended, negative side of our personality that is opposed to our ongoing development. The voice consists of the negative thoughts, beliefs and attitudes that oppose our best interests and diminish our self-esteem. It encourages and strongly influences self-defeating and self-destructive behavior. This hostile, judgmental advisor also warns us about other people, promoting angry and cynical attitudes toward others and creating a negative, pessimistic picture of the world.
The critical inner voice exists to varying degrees in every person. It undermines our ability to interpret events realistically; it triggers negative moods and sabotages our pursuit of satisfaction and meaning in life. These destructive internalized thoughts lead to a sense of alienation–a feeling of being removed from ourselves and distant from those we love. The critical inner voice is not an auditory hallucination; it is experienced as thoughts within your head. If we “listen” to its destructive point of view and believe what it is telling us, we will fail to challenge it and instead we will act on it. This process has a seriously negative consequence on our lives.
Although most of us are conscious of some aspects of this inner voice, many of our negative thoughts exist on an unconscious level. At times, we may recognize what our critical inner voice is telling us, while at other times, we may be unclear about our negative thinking and simply accept it as being true. We are often unaware of the destructive impact that these thoughts are having on our emotions, actions, and the overall quality of our lives.
The Critical Inner Voice is Not a Conscience
The critical inner voice is not a conscience or a moral guide. What most distinguishes the inner voice from a conscience is its degrading, punishing quality. Its demeaning tone tends to increase our feelings of self-hatred instead of motivating us to change undesirable actions in a constructive manner.
Challenging your Critical Inner Voice
You can take power over your critical inner voice. When you become conscious of what it is telling you, you can stop it from running your life. The challenge is to identify and ‘flush out’ this internal covert operation. To do this, be on the lookout for when you slip into a bad mood or become upset. Investigate: what caused the shift? What happened and, most importantly, what did you start telling yourself after the event? The fact that your mood shifted from feeling optimistic or relaxed to feeling down or irritable is probably a sign that you are interpreting the event through your critical inner voice.
Now that you have identified that your critical inner voice is advising you, what is it trying to get you to do? When you pinpoint the actions that it is advocating, you can take control over your critical inner voice. You can consciously decide to take action against its directives, thereby acting in your own interest.
Staying on the Right Side of Yourself and Not Listening to Your Critical Inner Voice
The balance between our two different sides is delicate and can be easily tipped. However, we don’t need to be the victims of our moods as they tip back and forth between our positive and negative feelings about ourselves. By identifying the critical inner voice and the role it plays in supporting our negative self-image, we can take action against it and significantly change our lives. We can reject attitudes that oppose our best interests and diminish our self-esteem. We can stop self-defeating and self-destructive behavior. We cannot tolerate angry, cynical attitudes toward others that turn us against people.
As you emancipate yourself from your critical inner voice, you will be free to engage in your pursuit of satisfaction and meaning in life. You will feel at peace with yourself and close to those you love. You will enjoy a compassionate view of the world and an optimistic outlook on life.
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Very helpful article and a great site. Been looking for good informational websites like mine with relevant info to share with others and this is definitely going to be one of them! Thanks!
I was born deaf, raised in boarding schools that punished students for signing and a state school for the deaf that uses full ASL with no holds barred. I got shafted by an only older sibling who learned he was dying and shunned by community and local relatives afterwards for years. Can you imagine how I am feeling? Shunned as if I got the plague after years being surrounded by relatives and members of the community now that my parents are no longer around to protect me from Audism. I need to talk and be listened to and be taken seriously. There are millions of Deaf individuals who shares my dilemma. I would like to provide informations based on my experiences so that you may help others understand Deaf People and help empower Deaf People and restore their low self esteem due to audism practices from all walks of life.
How about starting your own blog?
Just as you feel the strong pain of to little communication, the hearing are struggling with too much, sometimes over whelming communication. Which makes it difficult for the hearing individual to have the patience, knowledge or even time to communicate with others who are deaf. As your live in a world full of pain we can never begin to understand, ours lives can be filled with information (hearing) overload you may not be capable of understanding. I once worked with a wonderful deaf young boy. HIS HEART was sad and broken because none of us talked to him on the job..the truth was I liked him very much. But, wwe were not permitted time to write notes back and forth and I knew no sign language. I often felt sorry for him. But, I had no after work hours to spare either as a wife and children demanded my after hour support.
Please be mindful of your privileg, speaking about how hard it is to be hearing is not appropriate when speaking to someone who is deaf.
Sorry to know this. I will support you in any way I can.
Wonderful web site. A lot of useful info here. I’m sending it to a few friends ans also sharing in delicious. And naturally, thanks for your effort!
The mind is the most interesting organ that resides within us. It is constantly working to keep us not only alive by controlling aspects of our voluntary and involuntary actions. As one doesnt simply think of the thought of breathing, we just simply do. Its like experiencing the instant anxiety one may experience when one has difficulty of swallowing.
The mind is connected to every inch of our bodies. As one may experience an itch and then will respond by scratching said itch. Then we experience all of our senses through our mind. Millions of synapses are firing off in milliseconds and then our minds become the very essence of ourselves. What we experience as the inner voice that constant dialogue that we all have. However, I find it to be quite interesting how we all experience this inner critical voice differently. Some may be affected differently due to possessing a mental illness. Which only compounds their icv. For me my inner voice is just that, its my actual voice but in my mind. The same voice I experience when II read a book. We all have that tendency to think negatively about ourselves. Have you ever found that you give better advice for ppl that you care about. Yet you never heed your own advice at all. We have a tendency to beat up on ourselves and bring ourselves down. This is because we always have this inner voice in our heads at all times. Its the very thought that we all have. It simply cant go away and we can’t just make it stop either. If youre experiencing a lot of negative thoughts and anxiety.
Remember that anxiety in itself is just a negative state of excitement. We just have to start becoming more aware of our negative thoughts. If you can become aware of these thoughts and feelings, then we can stop to identify it before our minds react to these negative thoughts. We can then attempt to stop these thoughts from ever going past anything other than a simple thought. Just instantly identify that you’re thinking negatively. Stop the whole process before it goes into fruition in the first place. Try to turn it around by saying the opposite of what you were originally thinking. Once we can start to change our whole way of thinking. Then slowly but surely your inner voice will become positive. So focus on having better self esteem, learn to love ourselves first before we can love others. As we tend to put others before our own selves. This can grow into a negative thinking pattern. Then you may start to think inwards towards yourself. Thinking that others may think of you negatively as well. We just need to shut all negative thoughts before they grow into something else. We have a tendency to overthink things and complicating things for no apparent reason at all. We also have to identify depression. Because that depression is what is affecting your inner voice. Your inner voice are just internal cognitive thinking patterns that we internalize and experience as a voice. Its not the inner voice thats self defeating us, its the depression that is afflicting us. So if we can identify what is causing us to think negatively, then we can focus on fixing the issue before it gets worse. Try to be optimistic and see things in a positive light. Slowly but surely as our self esteem and self love grows. Then all we will have are positive thoughts.
Super article on your little, inner voice. Yes, when your little, inner voice becomes critical, we develop all sorts of insecurities and inner, emotional dependences. We may even lose touch with our emotions and live a way of life that detaches us from a healthy understanding of reality.
am on a CBT cognitive behavioural therapy course uni and found this article of great value and insight into my studies…great article and beneficial. many thanks
Can your CIV become extreme enough to the point that you start feeling detached from it (as if it feels like there’s another “person” growing & mocking you from the inside) & even cause some physical distress if you try to resist it’s criticisms, or is that probably something else entirely? Do you know what that could be?
I’ve dealt with that when I was younger but never found out what exactly it was & couldn’t really talk about it with anyone at the time, so I couldn’t really identify it.
Yes, the critical inner voice can become that extreme. It sounds like you may be experiencing some disassociation, because of the detached feeling you mentioned. Talking about these thoughts and feelings with a mental health professional, especially one trained in Voice Therapy, could be very helpful. You can find information on how to find mental health resources here: Get Help
I have just read your great article and found that I was nodding my head in agreement – “Yep thats me”. It is always good to know that you are not the only one who is going through the struggles of managing that critical inner voice. I have written a blog about my critical inner voice who I have named “dirty Harry”. I have also named Angel as my”positive inner voice” Here is the link to my blog post
My First Step on my Reinvention Journey – Dealing to Dirty Harry & Listening More to Angel – http://kathrynsandford.com/?p=130. I am very new to writing blogs – a bit of trial and error. Writing more from intuition and how I feel at the time. Not a lot of research and so would love to get your thoughts/feedback.
I am truely greatful to have read this. it certainly answers questions and provides answers for a person trying overcome self destuctive berhaviors. ty
I feel like I have already grown the monsters so much that there is no me… watching this actually made me cry… I dont understand myself anymore, I dont know who I am…
Excellent site 🙂 dealing with my own self. (thoughts)
im 17 and i have created a monster in my head, i have this belief of questioning my natural abilty i constantly have this crictical inner voice in the back of my head asking me how am i doing this? and it triggers paralysis by anylisis in my sporting ability that makes perform poorly and not up to my full potential and also interferes with me in my social life most of the time my head is in the clouds or gazing.im not me anymore should i be worried or scared about this.
I don’t demonize the critical voice and make it the enemy. For me doing so creates a physic warfare. I do my best to listen to the critical voice with a neutral stance. I actually love my critical voice… it is trying to tell me something. I don’t act on what it says. For example, I don’t do well on a project at work. I hear the voice ‘see, you are stupid’… I pause, feel the emotion, then, from a neutral place process ‘you are stupid’. Deconstructing ‘you are stupid’, I choose to agree that I didn’t do well at work and did my best at the time. The neutral voice says, I am going to do some research on how I could have done better. Result, no warfare, I accept that I did the best I could and the inner critic helped me to understand that I needed to learn something. anyway… King… you are awesome that you recognize and are aware!
Your process works!
I am 42 yrs young. I have been “self-critical” for most if my life! Wow! Just reading that sounds sad. 🙁 I have been through a lot. I have a loving husband and 4 amazing children. I have a lot to be thankful for. I have become more aware of how my self-hate is affecting my relationship with my husband and how my children watch and mimic me. I REALLY need to start loving myself again…not only for them but…for ME! It is so destructive and hasn’t solved a thing. I deserve to love myself and be proud of me! It won’t come to me instantaneously…but…I am willing to put in the time and awareness. ?❤
I’m feeling so bad,,I m getting my friend voice inner
If I started taking with my friend 1hr or 1/2n hr I’ll get frnds voice inside,,when I’ll talk something alone
I’ll get her voice in mind, if I said some thing inside my mind for myself I’ll get there voice.what to do,I can’t concentrate o my studies…..y? 🙁
Sounds like you might be an Empath. Look in to it and learn how to control it while you’re young. It’s a gift but also very challenging to control Good luck!
Saad here, Trying to fight against my critical inner voices which are with me since my childhood . . . !
This is so true.
My voice inside appeared when i finished with my boy friend and it was filled with negative destructive words. eg. men only love me because im pretty and not for my personality. i cant love . i dont have a brain. i dont have a heart. im not human. im a bus. im a piece of iron or house. messed up stuff. now i try to think logically and rationally and talk to my.inner voice takes time. but can be beaten. eat healthy exercise and stay strong on the outside can also help vanish the inner bad voice and reality will be a bteeze again
What does it mean when it’s gone?
Recently mine was treating me like an old friend and just teasing me,(I called it a them and they were my inner demons), maybe because we had a common goal,(I like a girl), but it disappeared a few days ago after I had a really sad thought that turned into a story.
Now I’m lonely because it’s gone, and I’m not even sure if I still like the girl, because my Demons became my Angels and now negative and positive thoughts about myself feel fake and meaningless.
So I need help because at the end of the day they were my friends and now instead of having a billion conversations with them, I now think with no response from the inner voice.
It feels like nothingness, like them being gone is bittersweet, like everything’s different but the same.
I need my critical inner voice. I love it because it’s the only person that tells me the truth. All through the day if I can hear my critical inner voice I feel like I can’t breath and get hot and the only way I can calm down so I don’t show people how much I live my critical inner voice I can say mean things to myself outlook and hear her and this is the only way I can calm down. I’ve been hospitalized a lot and I get so scared someone will make me loose her. She is my only friend. Am I really mean but I don’t want to hurt others so I have to make sure I hurt more?
I meant if I can’t hear my critical inner voice I get really scared and freak out bad so I can calm do by saying I’m so wrong I’m so stupid I hate myself is my favorite and most calming.
I have this insane need to make sure everyone likes themselves because I love them so much and I want to hurt so they don’t? Wtf
I have been dealing with my critical inner voice for as long as I can recall. It wasn’t until very recently that I learned what it was actually called, and what caused it. I am constantly trying to convince myself that the relationship I am in is doomed, even though there is no physical, real world, evidence to support that idea (actually, much to the contrary.. I have been with the same person for 13 years, and we are madly in love). I never knew why I constantly spent days completely introverted, lost in my own thoughts, convinced that the worst possible things were on the horizon. Every time something positive happened, I would wait, on the edge of my seat, for the other shoe to drop. Within my relationship, I would create a story and over-analyze every one of my wife’s actions. I would create a reality with no basis in fact, and convince myself that the things I was creating were real. God bless my soulmate for hanging in there, even when it would’ve made more sense not to. I certainly didn’t make it easy on her. My inner voice would make it impossible for me to trust anyone, especially her. I always tried to convince myself that either she didn’t love me, she was lying to me, or she was being unfaithful. That reality could not have been further from real reality. It also made me a cynic and a pessimist. I always seek out the worst in every situation. I immediately force situations, no matter how positive, into a negative light. I find the negative in the most positive situations, and most of the time it is completely irrational. It leads to a “boy who cried wolf” situation, and when things come up that warrant a negative or skeptical interpretation, I am often discounted as “just being pessimistic”. It is no way to live.
Luckily, now that I have identified it, and it’s cause (anxious attachment disorder) I can start to address the problem, and learn how to lower the volume on that inner voice. Whenever my inner voice starts to write its own story, I am able to more clearly identify it, analyze it, and silence it. My quality of life has already begun improving, and for the first time in a long time, I am excited for the future. I have turned to meditation to clear my mind and basically hit the “reset” button on my thoughts (if you are struggling with a critical inner voice, I HIGHLY recommend meditation). Most often, it is not more difficult than identifying the negative or critical thoughts, analyzing where they are coming from, and asking myself “Why?”. Most of the time, it helps to reinforce how irrational my thought process is, and how self-destructive it is to think that way.
hello, this may sound weird but your story sounded oddly familiar to me, and i am going through these same problems. who is this?
It is kind of reassuring to hear your story, I like the commentor below we have been in the same “situation” identical even with timelines and what not, but Im very glad I read it from you and I feel a little bit easy, I don’t know. We are identical stories just different blokes. Thanks for this, it means the world to me in a point where I think I’m at an all out war and this was the final stand.
I am definitely reading this a million times til I get it. I always thought I was born like this, or it maybe the ADHD,… If you wouldn’t mind I’d like to have a chat with out. So friggin much I haven’t actualized yet. But I’m definitely journaling from this point.
Thank you. Now I know what’s going on with me.
Thank you very much. I appreciate this a lot, I´ve started to construct the puzzle of my mind 4 years ago and now I know myself much more than ever. This article helped even more in my introspection work and now I have developed some good strategies to keep going with my life journey
This makes it sound like any positive thoughts are “authentic”, “realistic” and helpful, whereas any negative thoughts are unrealistic and unhelpful.
Shouldn’t the goal be to have a realistic view of self, world, and others, whether the assessment turns out to be negative or positive? Isn’t a proper critic, a voice that assesses one’s own positive and negative traits realisticaly, and same for that of others, essential for knowing oneself, acting wisely, improving oneself, and wisely choosing relationships?
This article had so much relevance to me. Thanks for publishing, at least I know I ain’t going mad.
Wow, I suffered severe emotional abuse as a child, particularly from my stepmother. I have always believed she systematically tried to crush my self esteem and confidence. I had a brutal inner voice that was the last thing I heard at night and the first thing I heard when I woke for so many years. I am 55 years old now. A recent traumatic abusive event incapacitated me and forced me to take time off work to address it. I started reading about the effects of childhood emotional abuse on adults andrealised where that horrible voice came from. I sought counselling which hasn’t started yet but for the past week the voice has disappeared. I can not believe it. I am so happy to be free of it. It’s like revealing and knowing about it robbed it of its power and neutralised it. I feel so much better already and regret that I did not do this years ago. That shit belongs to my father and stepmother and no longer belongs to me. I also now understand so much more about myself and how I have behaved in life in the wake of that abuse and now want to work very hard to rewrite the script even if it is at the age of 55!
Internal “enemy”? Singers and common people encourage a voice that is kind and works in best interest.
My inner voice thinks it’s a parent,only more authoritarian. I’m in my 30s now and deal with a lot of stressors,most of which do not involve me and are beyond my control. I’ve had self-esteem issues most of my life as well. My inner voice does not offer me a solution to the problems that are within my control;instead it threatens me that I better rectify said situation or there will be consequences. It also wants to yell and scream at me,but I ignore it. Thankfully I either go nuts filling my hard drive with useless stuff or just end up crying when I’m alone.
maybe i read your comment too late but i just wanted to give you a piece of advice, it doesn’t matter what you have passed through what matters is what you learnt from that and believe me if you give your self enough time to sit and talk things on your own you will start to recognize who you are, just be honest with every thing you say, your emotions, your mistakes, the good and bad things you did and yeah never blame your self on anything but say iam in this life to learn and it is never too late to start again.
A great read gave me a lot to reflect on.
I have stumbled upon this today, and it has literary blown my mind, ever since I could remember, I am turning 30 this month and just knowing this makes me feel something again about myself. Wow, the “dark” side has always been there and realizing it well it’s a breathe of fresh air. For now, I for one get in these state for weeks and I have a passion for “scorched earth” when I am irrational, Currently my spouse is my punching bag well because she has been my life life and once she “failed me utterly” and I don’t know about the future, but I know where to start.
CIV partners up well with Anger, I also started drinking and smoking when I started college majorly because I wasn’t in control of everything or anyone. I was constantly surrounded by women who wanted me, and I knew she was also tempted alot because she is also gorgeous. But damn, I get in depressed stated for long and I can sabotage anything from myself, to my livelihood, my relationships, it can go well over months. I am from East Africa, and inspite of being “promising” and “gifted” I have always managed to [email protected]# everything up. And my parents were the begining of this disgruntled journey, never presence. Assuming myself, belittled or discouraged from my talents or taking me off my life into something they believed would make me successful… Which never happened. Then quick start friendships, which just end abruptly after “being” taken advantage of. I have questioned my relationship and have been even emotionally absent or just being a D! We won the Greencard lottery and If I can get better access to information and help, I would oblige even though I have sabotaged it. It’s difficult to come out and say you wronged them especially since you don’t even know how you did it or have to sit there and have someone talk about you and go like “That’s me?” I always want to meditate but I always don’t get through with (Self diagnosed ADHD) I really don’t like meds and I have always wanted to be Fully Self Aware. It is amazing sometimes how we can go about our days with or without knowing what we are, I appreciate this article immensely and I don’t even think I will sleep on it.
I have to start somewhere right?
The Inner Voice will be working and angle for it, coupled with my ego, I just want to be easy and deliberate. I don’t face criticism well, I even don’t like authority sometimes, even though I totally believe in authority. I am a parent now and Lord knows i get impatient so feel free to drop links, or whatever here so that I get myself back firm and accountable with purpose. I feel everyone around me will want that even those who don’t i.e CIV.
THANKS @PSYCHALIVE & the author.
Sometimes, I feel these things too. I heard this inner voice and was very negative. I suddenly diverse my negative thoughts to positive but what I am afraid of is how long I can help myself to experience this and how far I can handle it.
Take Control by conscientiously deciding the you will make the call , that the Inner is going to Sync up with you, your the boss. You tell the Inner what the deal is and whats about to happen!
Great! This is the first time I heard about the critical voice on a psych website. I have learned the ins and outs of it as the Destructive Voice through IYF’s mind education about how it often disguises itself as my own voice, working diligently to bring me down while undercover.
I have been told to observe each thought, and interrogate each thought and take it to the end of the line, to see what kind of action is it trying to bring about. If it is something we don’t want, it is from the Destructive Voice. For example, man wants to live. Babies have the natural instinct to live. But if I hear a voice that says “I want to die,” Then that is from the Destructive voice that is not of us. All suicidal people need to know to stop committing suicide is that this voice they are hearing is NOT of them, because they actually want to live. All survivors from jumping off bridges and such all say the same thing, the minute they jumped they regretted it.
Need to talk to someone like you .. I keep hearing many voices in my head .. after hearing voices , i become a complete different person …the people around sense these voices before i do .. it seems like these voices are travelling with me all the time .. these voices are there as if though ,it’s testing me , my courage .. yes,i have lost touch with my near one’s . They feel scare to speak to me .. they say me not to come.. & they also don’t come to visit me..these voices come & tell me my future to avoid any problems..but since 2000 , i was not able to hear them .. i think these voices got captured by someone else .i couldn’t take proper decisions in life..i lost my mom , the most dearest person … I couldn’t even take care of her the way i wanted ..i wanted to care for her . Before 2000 i used to get messages.i always took care of my family as a shravan Bal . But last year was a nightmare,it took away my mom .. after she went voices stopped ..but then when i delivered my baby this year , it has gain started .. what do i do .. i am not even allowed to step out of the house .. it seems this energy wants to prove people that i am insane just sitting at home .. i want to be out of the house & live life happily with my husband ..
I want to work & earn money ..i am educated .. it seems according to the voices, i do not have a wealth line in my hand .. so i should not be able to earn money .. so it keeps bringing me down irrespective of how much ever i wish to start each & every time … i want to earn money in legal way …
WOW…WOW. I just read all of your comments. I also experience what all of you(US) do. Do you guys see how similar the thread is between everyone here? I have been working with and on this myself and in therapy for over 30+ years now..I just want to add: its challenging… keep at it.. progress does happen.. at its own pace..I know it to be true.. all of you are stronger than you can even imagine.. it takes so much courage to even look up and be aware of these things in our head.. its so not for the weak…it does take a “village” and we need to be part of a team.. just to support and grow.. everybody here has chosen to walk in the light..and to keep on walking even when we can only see just a few steps ahead of ourselves.. I once heard that’s all we really need anyhow..im learning this as well.. also learning that anyone pursuing clarity and truth in this space deserves to feel so proud of themselves(I know …counter to the issue…but exactly is the point)
you are all awesome. I am so grateful to have come upon all of your responses …lets stay strong… there is a huge gift in all of this…I so believe that…be well brave seekers of the truth…