…ive. This awareness of what’s going on in the present is known in personal development circles as Mindfulness and is a great way to tap into the here and now. From awareness follows acceptance and/or action. Perhaps you choose to simply acknowledge that this is a tough moment, that there is fear or uncertainty in you. That’s OK, too. Sometimes it can be more helpful to sit with a negative emotion for a minute or two to see what’s causing it, to ai…
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…others support. 3. How Can We Counter Narcissism? One way, to counter the development of narcissism is to place an emphasis on and teach self-compassion over self-esteem, particularly unwarranted self-esteem, where adults over-praise children, offering them a build up for talents or traits they do not possess. Research from Dr. Kristin Neff shows that high or inflated self-esteem correlates with narcissism, whereas self-compassion does not. Neff…
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…n our children and in ourselves by emphasizing these values throughout our development. One way to do this is by teaching and practicing mindfulness, a point I elaborate on in “Benefits of Mindful Parenting.” Another is by identifying your “critical inner voice.” The critical inner voice is like an internal enemy we all possess that resides in our heads and comments on our actions. This inner critic forms out of negative experiences early in our l…
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…out yourself rather than better, then chances are it is unhealthy for your development as a person. Though I have not spoken to my friend in almost a year, I still think about her often. I reminisce on the great times, and I do not feel anger for what took place throughout the years. I realize that we are all different and that is the beauty of being individuals. She has amazing qualities, as do I, but our qualities were not in sync which eventu…
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…f death. Latent or actual death anxiety acts as a core resistance to adult development. In Beyond Death Anxiety: Achieving Life-Affirming Death Awareness, I wrote, “Facing issues of mortality can imbue life with a special meaning in relation to its finality and heighten an awareness of the preciousness of each moment…” When death fears surface in the course of everyday life, you can face up to the realization of your personal mortality, identify t…
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…s cognitive, existential, and psychoanalytic frameworks and is a comprehensive theory of resistance to any form of psychotherapeutic intervention, personal progress, or development. 1988, New York: Human Sciences Press 2001, Santa Barbara: The Glendon Association ISBN: 0967668433…
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…for helping professionals and other people who are interested in personal development, deepening friendships, sustaining intimacy in couple relationships, and developing healthy child-rearing practices. It points out the value of leading a life marked by adventure and recreation, transcendent goals, and spiritual exploration, and offers fresh views on the past, present, and future of psychotherapy. American Psychological Association (APA), June,…
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Like most process addictions, compulsive spending and shopping serves an unconscious purpose. The purpose is typically specific to each individual and while out of one’s awareness, a yearning seeks to be filled. This is where the process of shopping and spending come into play. Assessing the behaviors, intentions, and emotions underlying compulsive spending and shopping can assist a person in seeking help for a problem that may be masked by our s…
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…e of it worked because her diagnosis and treatment started too late in the development of her disease. And through it all, I never believed she would die. I just couldn’t grasp it. Death was reserved for old people. So I was the same friend I had always been – we saw each other with our husbands occasionally because we lived quite far from each other, and we talked just a little more often than that. After all, we were young. We had plenty of time…
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