Fear of Intimacy

The Fear of Intimacy describes how we often shun or inadvertently push away the love of others. Many will be surprised to learn that the real resistance to intimacy can’t be attributed to our partners, but from to an enemy lurking within. The problem arises when the positive ways a lover sees us conflicts with the negative ways we view ourselves. Though we may not be entirely aware of it on a conscious level, most of us, to some extent, have a of fear of intimacy.

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